Like everyone else, I used to think that being a parent is an impediment to career success. But little did I know that being a parent – and specifically a mom – can make you better at your job. So here’s my personal take on why women can personally become a better employee once they become moms.
I have 2 lovely boys. Nathen’s our newest addition at 5 months old and Daniel’s our little sweetheart of a toddler at 3 years old. The decision to have children definitely had nothing to do with career goals. I didn’t even think I’ll enjoy being a mom (I mean like all that noise and tears?!) but crazy or not, I’m really proud being a mom now.
At first I didn’t realise if I was any different. But slowly my colleagues around me starting noticing, and soon I felt a difference in me too.
I was never perfect (not even close) nor will I ever be but Motherhood has made me a better team mate, a better leader, and a better employee. And that is due to the behaviourial attitudes that I have learnt from being a mom.
The one ultimate virtue that motherhood has taught me is patience. Motherhood has taught me to slow down and to enjoy a different perspective and pace.
There is really nothing like picking up my toddler from childcare and talking a slow walk home. We’ll hold hands and talk about his day. He still babbles but we try our best to communicate. He’ll point out things he wants me to see… like a truck… or a bird… or a taxi. We adults have a million things going on in our head don’t we?
I am usually on my phone all the time, multi-tasking and my head will be full of things that I need to do. Distracted parenting is what I’m guilty of. Having kids has taught me that to be considerate of their perspective and their priorities in life. It is hard but my kids have taught me to see things from their POV.
Being a mom has also made me a whole lot more tolerant. It didn’t take me long to discover that my husband, I and our kids are all imperfect in so many ways.
I have also slowly become a whole lot less quick to judge. Like there was once my toddler once kept pointing at something for me to see and he kept going on and on about it while I was on my phone. I got a bit frustrated with him. Later on, when I bent down and really listened to what he was trying to say, I felt really bad for thinking he was just being a nuisance. He just wanted to tell me that the train has left the platform. That was one moment when I told myself always to see things from his POV before jumping to conclusions.
I learnt to not just accept differences but learn how to LIVE with it and be less frustrated about things that don’t measure up.
Flexibility is one of the first lessons I learnt when I became a mom. While some things are in my control, most aren’t. Like my kids, their behaviour, their feelings… I just learn to go with the flow and be really okay about it.
Compassion, empathy, grit, forgiveness and resilience… There’s so many more lessons that I’ve learnt and so much more that I need to learn. Only 3 years into the mom game and I feel like I’ve become a better person already.
Juggling motherhood and a demanding career in advertising is no easy feat but like every other working mom out there, we keep trying everyday. There’s always a few black sheeps out there challenging the world’s view of working moms but I’d like to think the best of people. You may or may not agree with this. But at the very least, personally, I felt like motherhood has made me a better employee and person.
Motherhood can be a barrier to career success or the experience of Motherhood can propel you to do better. The choice is yours.
What say you mothers out there?