Here’s Why I Don’t Hang Out As Much Any More :(

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Wow, I received so much love and support from my previous post on why it’s so hard to work late as a working mom.

I’m relieved to know that so many of you find it challenging to balance work and family. I feel a little less lonely.

Every day, the husband and I continously try to grow into being better parents for our 2 children. But you know who we’re neglecting?

Our friends. I still love you guys! ūüôĀ

It used to be that we could hang out any time (just say when!) and I could handle last minute impromptu meetups.

But now, if I wanted to meetup with friends, it requires some massive arrangements and at least 1 week notice.

It’s not like I had children of my own and then decided I don’t need friends. Truth is, I miss my friends. I really do but life is really kind of overwhelming now. We’re chest deep in this new addition to the family and we’re figuring how to make space and how to generate enough energy for all the things we love.

Friends, family, our jobs, our better half, travelling, and even… Pokemon Go.

Someone would suggest, “Let’s go Poke Hunting!”
I’d get excited and then… “I’d love to… I really want to but……. I can’t”
“Oh……”, they’d say.

Routines Routines Routines

For better or worst, my¬†life is now made up of routines that go on and on. Whether it’s the routine for waking up and sending the kids to school or the routine after we get home, it’s a whole heap of routines.

It’s repetitive. It doesn’t give me much me-time but it definitely keep things sane in the house. Disrupting that routine will most definitely result in a lot of chaos and tears.

I am still ME. Really.

I know it may not seem like I’m¬†the same when sometimes all I do is talk about breastfeeding and weaning and play dates… But I¬†still care and I¬†still want to know all about my friends’ lives. I’m still here!

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I haven’t stopped being me because I had kids. I’m¬†still that same cool friend who wants to talk to you about everything stupid and irrelevant under the sun.

It may seem like all I¬†care about is my¬†kids for awhile but that’s only because having a child (or another child) is all so new and I’m¬†excited and nervous about trying to manage this new addition to our lives.

I just temporarily lost my ability to hang out or do much in person and have moved to a being a more manageable online presence.

Friends are an unbelievably integral part of what keeps me sane and in touch with who I am outside of being a parent.

I’ll eventually get back to normal. I¬†love you still and god knows I¬†need friends. So don’t be too hard on me¬†if all I¬†can talk about is baby stuff for awhile! I hope that when I get out of this needy phase with my kids, my friends will still be there.

Anybody feeling the same?

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2 Comments

  1. joyce
    September 2, 2016 / 12:21 pm

    yes same same! life is definitely so much different with a kid around. same like you, last time alone, i can go anywhere i like and at any time too… but now.. i have to see the timing of my son! must always think, if the place that i’m going is suitable for him, will he feel bored.. etc. and is confirmed not as going out as freely as i like.

    • Ju Ann
      September 2, 2016 / 4:24 pm

      Hahaha ya! We are at our kid’s mercy!

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